Who Decides if it Hurts?

Who determines if something is harmful – the person speaking, or the person receiving the information?

If someone flings a slur at another person, does it matter if they intended it to hurt or as a joke, if the person hearing the terms is genuinely distraught/threatened as a result?

I initially intended this to be in support of those who are gender expansive, or talk about race, but dang if it doesn’t just apply to all of us, all the time.

My Dad shared this old adage:


What an amazing world we would live in if everyone measured their words by these 5 checks.

I believe we can, even if just one baby-step a day.   Let’s try it for a week and report back, what say ye?